The tools on this site offer unique opportunities for personal development. The guided meditations may affect you more deeply than any other change work you’ve experienced in the past.
While the guided meditations might seem easy and simple, they initiate deep inner change processes. These changes take time to integrate into new conscious beliefs and behaviors.
Here are some guidelines on how to manage your personal development using these tools.
As an overview:
- Make small, regular changes
- Repetition is good
- Sleep is your friend
- Use your mind to set your goals
- Use your body to guide your process
- Ask for support
Make Small, Regular Changes
Once you experience an important change in your life, you might want more and more, faster and faster. While this can seem appealing, pursuing too much change too fast will actually be counter productive. You won’t have time to integrate one change before you initiate the next, and you risk destabilizing your internal world in ways that negatively impact your daily life.
Research into learning and development shows that making small, consistent changes creates more sustainable change than attempting big, heroic changes all at once.
One of the great benefits of having these guided meditations available on your computer, tablet or smartphone is that you can use them whenever you want, as often as you want.
Take your time. There is no rush!
I recommend that you pick one key theme to work on at a time and focus on that theme for a month or more, making small regular progress in the area you have chosen.
The small, incremental changes add up to life-changing differences surprisingly quickly.
For example, the two months I spent exploring shame and transforming every occurrence of shame that came up for me changed the very fabric of my intimate life.
I cover this topic in more depth in Revelation & Perspiration.
Repetition Is Good
Our old wounds and persistent habits are deeply engrained in our neurology and body. They’ve been built up and reinforced over many years.
While following a guided meditation can have a profound impact on releasing old wounds and creating new patterns, it’s unlikely that an entire pattern will completely transform in a single session. In fact, changing too much at once can be surprisingly hard to swallow.
I designed the guided meditations here to make relatively small and easily-digestible changes each time you use them. I also designed them so that you can use them repeatedly to deepen and reinforce the changes you want.
When you find a guided meditation that has value for you, I recommend you continue to use the same guided meditation once or twice a week to work on different aspects of the same topic. Keep doing this until you just don’t get any ‘juice’ out of the guided meditation or get bored with it.
Then move on to the next topic that interests you.
Sleep Is Your Friend
It has been know for a long time that a key function of sleep is to transform short-term memories into long-term memories.
In 2013 new research started to emerge that suggests another, equally important function of sleep, which is to forget things that are no-longer important. It turns out that a key function of sleep is to re-evaluate our memories, and ‘undo’ the ones that are no longer important.
When you make deep changes using the Body-Psyche guided meditations, negative thoughts, behaviors, memories and feelings that used to seem important will lose their significance. Those ‘memories’ will no longer need to be held front and center in your mind and body.
You’ll need to update your brain to ‘forget’ the old, negative patterns.
It’s very common to need lot of sleep after using the Body-Psyche guided meditations. This is precisely because the ‘small’ changes you have made affect so much else in your beliefs, thoughts, feelings and actions that it takes a lot of sleep work to undo old, negative connections.
If you’re tired, sleep. You’re actually doing essential work to make lasting changes in your life.
And if you feel too tired to take care of the rest of your life, cut down on how often you follow the guided meditations.
Use Your Mind To Set Your Goals
Your conscious mind is great at setting goals. Use it.
Take time to think about what you want in life, and then set personal development goals that will support you.
See The Art And Science Of Setting Goals For Success And Satisfaction for more on this topic.
Use Your Body To Guide Your Process
While your mind is great at setting goals, it may not always be so good at listening to your body. It’s very easy to set a conscious goal and then try to override signals you get from your body that give you valuable feedback on how you need to adjust your goal or your process.
See Too Much Fitness Can Destroy Your Health for more on the dangers of letting your mind run the show without paying attention to your body wisdom.
More than anything else, the guided meditations you’ll find here are body-centered processes. It’s essential that you listen to your body through the process. If something feels good, follow it. If something feels bad stop. If you feel too tired or overwhelmed by all the change work you’re doing, slow down.
If you feel excited and invigorated, keep going. If you love the changes you’re making in your life, keep using the tools to create everything you want in your internal experience and external circumstances.
Ask For Support
Most of what you experience here will be new to you. Much of it will be surprising.
If all goes well, at times it will be confusing – as you undo old patterns and start to create new ones in your life.
If you feel like you would like guidance or support, ask for it. The best way is to post a comment on the guided meditation you’re using at the moment. If you’d like more general guidance or support, drop me a line by email anytime.
It’s an honor to be with you on this journey. I look forward to hearing from you.