Here is an effective way to increase your experience of love and compassion.
What is Love?
First, what is love? That’s an age-old question that’s been overcomplicated since humans could talk. The answer is quite simple. Love is the experience of accepting another person exactly as they are, right now. When we accept someone exactly as they are, we experience love for that person.
The Big Huge Barrier to Love and Compassion
The opposite of accepting someone exactly as they are is to judge them. When we judge someone, we automatically withdraw our love from that person. We simply cannot feel love and judgment at the same time. It’s physically impossible.
Develop Love and Compassion
So the process of increasing our experience of love and compassion is really quite simple. It’s just a matter of reducing our judgments and increasing our acceptance of the other person.
Right now you’re probably thinking something a lot like “That’s a lot easier said than done!”
It turns out that it is easily done if you have a road map to guide you.
According to the Body-Psyche Guide To Inner Wisom, the following body sites form the experience of judgment when they are tight and contracted, and form the experience of love and compassion when they are relaxed and expanded:
- Forehead and eyebrows
- Eye gaze (tight focus or soft focus)
- Eye lids and eye sockets
- Jaw muscles
- Neck muscles
- Upper ribs
By tightening all of these body locations, we increase our experience of judgment. By relaxing and expanding all of these body sites, we increase our experience of love and compassion.
Try It Out
Here are two guided explorations you can use to experience this for yourself.
You can use Compassion Meditation 1 to increase your experience of love and compassion for anyone in your life. The first time through, try it out with someone you want to love, but for whom you have some form of judgment that gets in the way. That will give you more insight into your own process of judgment and help you become aware of how you can develop more love and compassion.
Use Compassion Meditation 1 a few times to gain awareness and insight. Once you’ve done that, you can use the shorter, nine-minute Compassion Meditation 2 any time you want to move into a more loving and compassionate space within yourself, or in relation to another person.
Compassion Meditation 1
Compassion Meditation 2
If you use these explorations a few times and find that you just cannot get over judging someone, then that means there is some other emotion feeding your judgments of them. The most common culprits are disappointment, unfairness, resentment, and anger.
If that is the case, you would be wise to release those emotions so that you can free yourself up to love more fully.
I’ll be putting together two new guided explorations over the next few weeks to support you in releasing any disappointment, unfairness, resentment, and anger that might be getting in your way of feeling love.
If you’d like to hear about those guided explorations when they’re ready, make sure you click on one of the social media links under “Stay connected” in the right hand column of this page or click on the email link to subscribe to our email list.
I’ll let you know when they’re ready for you.
In the meantime, enjoy expanding your experience of love and compassion.