“There’s no time like the present.”
“Live every moment as if it were your last.”
We are surrounded by these clichés that extol the virtues of the present moment. And in theory, “living in the present” should be exciting and rewarding. Taking control of your life… appreciating every moment… very empowering, isn’t it?
But how often do we seize the day? So many times, our best intentions get thwarted when circumstances and people distract us from what we really want.
“The traffic was just too crazy this morning – and now I’m running late.”
“My spouse doesn’t understand me, and he (or she) makes me so angry!”
“When I walk into the office, I can take one look around and just know it’s going to be a bad day…”
It’s easy for these triggers to throw you off-course, especially when you’re not even aware of what’s happening at a deeper level. However, once you realize that there are subconscious factors behind your tendency to sabotage your enjoyment of the present moment, you can begin to embrace life right now – instead of robbing yourself of the opportunity to appreciate the people and things that surround you.
Living in the present is possible, even when circumstances aren’t optimal. Even when people don’t cooperate. Even when life isn’t “perfect.”
It’s time to recapture that childlike awe and enjoyment of living in the present that you once possessed…
What It Takes
First, it’s imperative to release the past. Throughout your life, you have built up threads of emotional responses that have become deeply ingrained in your psyche – and many of these responses are negative ones that have created a self-destructive base of coping mechanisms.
With this negative foundation in place, whenever something happens that unconsciously reminds you of the past, it yanks on this chain of undesirable emotions, thus triggering an unconscious sequence of events. Even though it feels as if you’re responding in the moment… you’re actually rehashing this whole history from earlier in your life.
For instance, when your mother criticizes you and you lash out at her, you’re not simply reacting to her current comment; you’re responding to all the little barbs and jabs she took at you throughout your lifetime. Understandably, you’ve built up some resentment, and so anything that remotely feels like criticism from her could trigger your overreaction.
Usually we’re completely oblivious to the roots of our reactions, instead rationalizing that “Mom always makes me angry” or “that’s just the way our relationship is.” But what you’re really doing is allowing your past to dictate the present (and, in fact, the future). Only when you end this unconscious pattern will you be able to forge new ways of relating and responding, and that is when living in the moment truly begins.
Of course, it may seem difficult to release your excess baggage – especially when you’re not always consciously aware that you are bringing your past into your present-day interactions and circumstances. What you need to do is tap into those feelings of abandonment, anxiety, frustration, lack of nurturing, etc. and release the pent-up hostility, sadness and anger that still lingers deep within your Body-Psyche.
My Abundance Program is a wonderful tool that will allow you to release these negative feelings in a powerful way, both quickly and easily.
I know how powerful this healing can be, because although I was once lonely and severely depressed, I used these tools to transform my life into one that is rich and fulfilling.
What It Looks Like and Feels Like
By releasing your early wounding, you are shifting those core drivers of negative emotions and then bringing those changes forward through time again so that you can begin living life in the present… without the wounds. When you do this, life gets so much easier. You’ll experience less stress, and physiologically, it’s much healthier for your body, too. Remember, the pain isn’t limited to your emotions, since many emotional wounds from early childhood later manifest themselves as physical ailments and illnesses.
Once you heal from within, your mind and body will feel a sense of renewal and clarity. The baggage that was once there is no longer inside, and as an adult, you can now make sovereign choices in the present moment without negative influences from the past.
In my own life, I’m noticing a sense of pervasive freedom, as if life just keeps getting easier – and better. Not only has success come to me more easily but also I have more energy without the emotional tethers that used to constrict me and drain my life force. Today, “living in the present” comes naturally for me. And even though I live a busy lifestyle and travel almost full-time, the freedom and relief that have resulted from releasing my own emotional wounds provides me with the clarity and presence to experience each moment in life with gratitude and wonder.
By replacing stress with peace…and substituting hostility with loving kindness, you too can look forward to seizing the day, and you will possess the ability to truly appreciate each moment – with a newfound sense of freedom and empowerment.