This guided meditation will show you how release your trapped emotions of self-consciousness. You will develop a deeper sense of who you are and allow others to see the best of you.
As I mentioned in The Psychology of Self-Consciousness, the price of self-consciousness is steep, resulting in: closing yourself off from your true self, worrying that everyone is judging you, and losing that internal compass that helps you claim what is really important to you.
The body sites mentioned in Self-Expression – How Your Body Holds You Back indicate the physical manifestations of self-consciousness. Use this 30-minute meditation to target those body sites to eliminate your limiting, constricting, self-conscious thoughts, beliefs and behaviors once and for all.
The Guided Meditation
In this guided meditation, you will call to mind an incident that made you feel self-conscious. By imagining yourself in this situation, you will draw your attention to the ways you close yourself off in your body.
Increasing your awareness of this closing off allows you to explore your need to inhibit yourself, keep your emotions “in check”, and hide your true feelings. Once you identify those body sites and release the pent-up emotions, you’ll be able to express yourself freely with others and simply feel more comfortable with yourself.
The Bottom Line: What to Expect After Using this Meditation
When people can really see you open up – and you finally allow yourself to be seen – how you see the world will change. In fact, you will be changed: barriers will fall away, you’ll experience a greater sense of freedom, and you’ll feel more satisfied with life in general.
“Be the change you want to see in the world.”
As you observe others’ responses to you, you can then choose how you respond to them. This opens up many more choices in your life. For example, you may choose to exclude certain people from your inner circle, while you may decide to pull others closer. You may even prefer to keep certain people around – but at a distance.
Once you are able to freely express yourself, you get to determine the circumstances in which you open up… or not. There may be situations where you still need to establish a degree of protection, but that is no problem because you have the tools, ability, and awareness to open up and connect whenever it makes sense.
How you express yourself will evolve over time, so it’s appropriate to take a measured, step-by-step approach to change. You can use this guided meditation to shift as little – or as much – as you are comfortable with at any given time. You can use the guided meditation as many times as you like to create a fuller, freer, and more authentic self-expression each time.
One caveat: some people may not be happy with this “new” you. People who are used to your former behaviors may have grown accustomed to getting their way in their relationships with you. So if you challenge their assumptions and assert your opinions, some people may feel threatened by this.
But don’t worry, because with your newfound knowledge and awareness of who you are, you will have the confidence and conviction to be comfortable with your decisions. Indeed, you’ll find that you’d actually prefer to express yourself despite embarrassment, judgment and even rejection. That’s because your new desire will be to express yourself, openly and honestly.
As you develop greater awareness of who you are, you will know how you want to act and what you want to do. You’ll experience great pleasure in knowing that you get to choose how to express yourself, whom you want to spend time with, and who you want to be in the world.
Use this guided meditation today to start on the path to enjoying your freedom of personal expression, along with being content with the knowledge that others appreciate the real you.