Do you ever feel that people keep pushing your buttons? When that happens do you wish you could find a positive way to react; other than exploding or hiding? My ‘Redefine Your Boundaries’ guided meditation will show you how to form healthy boundaries. It’s a simple process that will allow you to access the power of your Body-Psyche and invite real transformation and positive change into your life.
Stop Pushing My Buttons!
When someone is pushing our or buttons, we can feel that they aren’t respecting us, are trying to control us, or even worse dumping their emotional baggage on us. When this happens, we can be left feeling powerless and confused. Until now, if you have struggled with defining your boundaries, you may have become angry, stepped back and remained passive, or slipped into a victim mentality, all of which feel emotionally uncomfortable. Neither reacting nor withdrawing creates healthy relationships.
A New Solution
Most of us understand that our past experiences inform how we see the world and react to it, but may feel powerless to change how we react. This is because in the past, we have formed unconscious beliefs which have become outdated and no longer work for us but are rooted in emotions that are trapped in our body. These trapped emotions drive most of our behaviors, so imagine if we could ‘take the drivers seat’, and transform our emotions to support and nurture us. When we feel ‘wounded’ we can either react defensively (withdraw), or offensively (attack). Either of these extremes can have negative consequences. But this guided meditation will show you how to develop a different way of responding, a new third choice that is neither of the two extremes, by using your Body-Psyche.
Redefine Your Boundaries: The process
If you feel that emotions trapped in your body have ultimate control and take you on an unnecessary emotional roller coaster ride, then this guided meditation will give you the means to take control and transform your ‘self’. The changes will then happen naturally and the work will be done in a very short time. During the guided meditation, the process will be organic and flow easily. Tapping into your Body-Psyche wisdom, you will feel the changes happening in the moment. During your 45 minute guided meditation you will follow these 4 simple steps:
Step 1: Connect internally
- Relax, focus and access your unconscious
- Connect with your body-felt emotions at a deeper level
Step 2: Familiarize yourself with the emotion
- Connect with the specific body-felt emotions that come up when your boundaries are challenged
- Honor your earlier responses in these challenging situations
- Connect with the body sites where the emotions live
Step 3: Find out what you really want
- Discover what you would rather have, believe and do
- Explore different types of reactions you could create
- Choose a new ‘third option’ – one of more power and sovereignty
Step 4: Create what you want
- Build a new vivid sense of what you want
- Feel that new response in your entire brain and Body-Psyche
- Create a new feeling in your body and reinforce new beliefs and behaviors
You have now created your new boundaries and embedded them in your brain and body. With your newly defined boundaries, a ‘new you’ will begin to emerge. No psychoanalysis, or baring your emotions; just a simple and natural process that will leave you with a new feeling of wholeness and inner security. Your thoughts and feelings will have changed, without having to pay conscious attention to them. That’s the power and simplicity of working with the Body-Psyche process.
The Guided Meditation
Here is the guided meditation. It’s 45 minutes long. I recommend that you follow it while seated in a firm chair that you can sit upright on with your feet on the ground. Also, choose a time and place where you can give this your undivided attention for 45 minutes. You can take notes as you go through the exploration, so you may want to have a pen and paper handy.